Q. My husband doesn’t have a ton of friends and is jealous of mine. What can I do? I need my friends!
A. Yes, we all need a balance with our committed partner and friends. Friendship is important for everyone as it offers a different value than our partner. We fall into an unrealistic expectation that our partner needs to fulfill every aspect of our life and in reality - we have to find balance. Our partners can’t meet all our needs. This is where having friends, family, and hobbies help form our individual self. By finding the person we are- we begin to unravel our needs and the expectations that we have of others get fulfilled in other ways. Encourage your husband to find a hobby that makes him happy. Be supportive on his journey of finding his authentic self.
Shavana Lopez, LPC-S, NCC \ 469-450-2448