trusting your teen
Q. I’m having a tough time trusting my teenager; I need him to be truthful.
A. Your son lied about completing his homework. This feels awful. How can you address the lie without putting him in a position to deny or defend it? You don’t want a show down. You want to be able to trust him. Gently ask, “Would you like a do-over? It’s important that we trust each other. Would you like to start fresh, son?” “Mom, this is embarrassing!” “I know. We’re in a tight spot. Let’s begin again. Did you complete your homework?” “No. Not the math.” “I know that was hard. I appreciate you being honest. I want to trust you all the time. What can you do, son, to be truthful the in the future?” You’ve just handed him the responsibility for telling the truth.
JoAnn Schauf yourtweenandyou.com