Marriage is hard. Marriage with children - harder. But don’t despair. Studies of successful, happily married couples with children show that embracing an ethic of “marital generosity” (of putting your spouse’s welfare first) results in happier marriages. The kicker is that both husband and wife must embrace the ethic and work to serve each other in small, but meaningful ways - like making a yummy cup of coffee in the morning or giving a back rub at night. Regular date nights, shared housework, commitment, and a shared faith help too.