You Should Know
Georgetown University Professor, Author and Study Hacks blogger, Cal Newport, says the best students aren’t the ones who study more, but the ones who study for uninterrupted stretches. He explains that by increasing your focus, you get more done in less time. In other words, stop multitasking. Study after study has shown that our brains can’t do multiple things at the same time. That includes even quick glances at your phone or inbox.
Teach your kids (and yourself) how to spot fake news and avoid clickbait. Beware of unusual/shortened URLs (copy and paste to Unshorten.It!). Look for all caps and bad grammar. Check a site’s “About Us” section. Fact check on Snopes or Google. Avoid enticing photos! Do an image search on Google to see if a picture is for real. Kids want to be informed and get most of their news online. It’s our job to guide them rightly. Visit www.commonsensemedia.org for a list of best news sources for kids.
Think about it. As an adult, if you were forced to apologize to someone before you were ready, would it really make things better? Probably not. Then why do we force our kids to apologize? Obviously, it’s important to right a wrong, but forcing an immediate apology can send the wrong message. It’s better to give them some time to process their feelings and empower them to find their own way to repair a situation – with a little help and encouragement, of course.
Birth order is fascinating to think about, but it doesn’t predetermine personality. Temperament and the way a child reacts to their situation are what actually have the biggest influence. The parent’s child-raising style has an impact too. That’s why it’s important to avoid labels and recognize the positive traits of each child no matter where they fall in the ranks. Acknowledge the pros and cons of each position if/when it comes up and give support as needed. Also, make sure everyone is getting quality one on one time.
Parenting Expert, Dr. Laura Marham says playing physical games with our children makes them more cooperative and parents more energized. No, really. Children need to play and physical play reduces stress hormones and increases bonding hormones for both of us. After a long day at school and work, two to ten minutes of active play should be plenty to make both parent and child feel better. Then we can settle down for a relaxing, cooperative evening. It’s worth a try.