You Should Know
Touch can ease pain, relieve stress and strengthen the immune system. Science says it even affects the brain as it can decrease anxiety and deepen bonds. As humans, we need to be touched. Kids especially. So, it’s important to find ways to appropriately touch each other every day. Hug. Snuggle with a story. Rough house a little. And, hold hands. It’s good for both of you.
Researchers say that children today are so used to constant noise that they’re actually uncomfortable without it. Too much noise, however, is not a good thing all the time, and we need to teach our children to appreciate silence now and then. Silence is calming. It helps us recharge, think clearly, and get in touch with our thoughts and feelings. Find ways to bring more quiet time to your lives. Turn off the radio in the car once in a while. Set limits on screens. Or our favorite, create a quiet zone in your home. Sounds nice, doesn’t it?
There’s something about being in or around water that’s simply relaxing. Science says there are both biological and psychological reasons. Whatever the reason, water can calm fussy children (and grumpy parents too). So, draw a bath, take a dip in the pool or go play in the rain. Splashing water on the face has the biggest effect, but if getting completely submerged isn’t appealing, let the kids play with water in the sink. Add some plastic cups, bowls and spoons and see what they whip up. Could be a better attitude.
Art is so much more than pretty picture. It actually helps children explore and process feelings about the world around them. When we encourage our kids to explore art, and provide them an environment to do it in, we give them an outlet to express themselves in a safe, reflective way. It’s also worth noting that while creating art helps children express their own feelings, observing art helps them understand the feelings of others. Visit local art studios, or join one!
Tired of saying “No” all the time? Try saying “Yes” instead. For example, if your daughter asks for a cookie, you could say, “Yes, you can have a cookie after dinner.” Or if a cookie is out of the question, offer another alternative like, “How about an apple?” It’s no fun to be the bad guy, so look for other ways to say “no” when you have to. The book How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk is a great resource.