You Should Know
When conversing with our kids, our spouse or our boss, we’re often so focused on what we’re going to say next that we don’t really hear what’s being said. Stop. People like to be listened to and the best way to show them you’re listening is to ask them clarifying questions. You’ll gain their respect and appreciation because not only have you proved to them you’re listening, you’ve shown them you care about what they’re saying.
Young children, and some teens, don’t have the executive function skills needed to successfully manage their academic lives independently. Executive function skills are the mental processes we need to plan, focus, and organize our lives as we envision our futures. We’re not born with them; we develop them as we mature. That’s why many young students need parent and teacher involvement to create detailed routines around homework, projects and assignments. They will eventually get there, but until then, if you notice them looking like they don’t know what to do next, it’s probably because they don’t.
If you think all your kid does at preschool is sing songs and play games, you’re mostly correct. But that’s precisely what he needs to be doing. These kinds of activities are how kids at this age make connections in their brains. And considering brain development is at its highest during the first four years of life, children can get a lot out of a quality preschool program. In fact, many longitudinal studies show a strong relationship between preschool attendance and success later in life, including improved academic readiness, higher graduation rates, better long term jobs and higher earnings.
Yes it’s frustrating, but think about it this way. Sibling rivalry gives our children an opportunity to develop important people skills like negotiation, cooperation, and the ability to see another’s point of view. As long as they’re not hurting each other, it’s worthwhile to let them solve their problems themselves. Suggestions are fine, but try to let them ultimately work things out. Don’t yell or take sides. Do teach them how to compromise and respect one another. Then remind yourself that in most cases, your kiddos’ relationship will eventually develop into a close one.
We parents sure worry a lot. Over five hours per day according to one poll. It seems that we’re most concerned about our children’s safety and happiness, followed by if they’re being bullied and if they’re keeping up in class. Our top three worst nightmares are dealing with broken limbs, broken hearts and lice (The poll was conducted by Lice Clinics of America). The poll also confirms that we’re losing sleep due to our worries. No kidding!? A more interesting poll would be: when do we not worry?